I am a birth mom to 3 kids, adoptive mom to 1 kid, and a stepmom to 4 step-"adults." Yes, you read that right... 8 kids. I am wife of actor Michael Beach, home cook, taxi driver, herder of children, terrible housekeeper and blogger of mom truth.

12 Things Moms Should Openly Admit

12 Things Moms Should Openly Admit

I am a mom in many ways... I have 2 kids I gave birth to, 4 step-kids and 1 we recently gained custody of through a family member. Yep...You counted that right...7 kids in all. Clearly, I love kids but I screw up this motherhood gig on a daily basis and I often feel like I am the only one. I know it's ridiculous but that's just how it feels some times. 

When I feel like a loser mom, I tend to reach out to moms in any way I can, through Facebook groups, mom friends or just calling my mom. I can't tell you how many times I have admitted something to another mom only to find out she does the exact same thing. It could be something as small as hiding chocolate from my kids to something as serious as experiencing panic attacks. And every single time, it is a huge sigh of relief because I no longer feel like I am the only mom that seems to be flailing through my days. There are so many moms feeling isolated and judged because they think they are the only ones struggling their way through motherhood. I am here to tell you we all struggle and maybe if we moms openly admitted some of our perceived "faults" to other moms in our lives there might not be so many of us badgering ourselves in silent. So with that said, I truly hope you can relate to at least one of these. 

  1. Motherhood is messy in more ways than one. There will be tears, bruised egos, disappointments, spilled milk, dirty dishes and piles of laundry. None of us make it out unscathed. Save a piece of your sanity and just embrace it. And remember, sanity is relative.
  2. It's difficult to say no, even when it is necessary. For some reason, a lot of us moms have an innate need to take care of everyone and try to make them all happy; the kids, our partners, our parents, the PTA... The lists go on and on and we think we can take it all on, all by ourselves.
  3. Every mom loses her cool at some point. There are only two kinds of moms; moms that have lost it and moms that will lose it. We all have our breaking points. For some of us, it happens daily and for others it is rare but it happens to every last one of us.
  4. There are times you won't have a clue what the hell you are doing. With all the help books out there you still won't be able to figure it all out. Every situation is different, every child is different and every parent is different. Unfortunately, there is no way you will know the answer for every thing that comes your way and some times you will just get it wrong.
  5. A vice is a necessity for surviving motherhood... Chocolate, coffee, wine, the Kardashians. It's called a coping mechanism and everybody needs one. Pick your poison and throw the guilt out the window.
  6. There is no such thing as a work/life balance. Some times you will be a rockstar at work while your home is falling a part and some times you will rock motherhood while everything else falls to the wayside. It's an impossible standard and you should just let that idea go before you make yourself feel like a crazy, inadequate mess.
  7. You can't do it all. When you try to juggle it all, it is inevitable that you will drop the ball on something and maybe even everything all at once. Moms are super but we are not superhuman.
  8. Anxiety and motherhood are often hand-in-hand experiences. However it manifest (headaches, backaches, heat flashes, hyperventilating or full on panic attacks), know that you are not alone. Acknowledging it doesn't make you incompetent, it makes you human. The pressures of being a mom can send even the most put together woman into a tail spin.
  9. Engaging kids at their every waking moment is an exhausting and often boring pain in the butt. Today's "parenting gurus' have guilted us into thinking we need to use every single minute to engage with our kids. Kids need to learn to play on their own and figure some things out without you guiding their every move. Throw some toys on the floor and go finish your coffee while it's still warm.
  10. T.V. is sometimes a necessary babysitter. When you are in the midst of trying to pull dinner together and one kid needs help with homework, the other is literally climbing the walls and the baby is clinging to your leg screaming...What the hell are you suppose to do?
  11. It's easy to forget your other half in the mix of it all. Relationships are hard work and adding kids only makes them harder. It is easy for kids to become all consuming and you end up tired, touched out and just don't have much left for anyone else. You have to make time to get some loving from your partner because both of you deserve it.
  12. Mom is often last on the list. We are caretakers but it is so easy to push taking care of ourselves to the end of the list. Then we end up a burned out mess with nothing but resentment to give to everyone else. It happens. You have to give yourself a break. 
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